Personal Blog: Being in a Relationship in College

A lot of relationships that start in high school tend to end the summer before college starts. Whether it be because of distance, or the need for a fresh start, most high school relationships end at the same time, with the same fate. Of course, there are relationships that make it through the transition, and mine was one of them. My boyfriend was already in community college when I was a senior, and I ended up going to a college only 45 minutes away from our hometown.

These two aspects were in our favor since he already knew where he was going and what he was doing, and my top college happened to be a short distance away. Another element that helped us is we talked about me moving to school a lot, and we started talking about it a while before I moved into my school. Communication is very important, and it eases a lot of built-up stress on both sides of the relationship. Any relationship can make it through the high school to college transition, as long as both parties communicate and trust each other. 

Tips for Long-Distance Relationships

Although I do not consider my relationship to be long-distance, the first week I was here was still hard on us as a couple. We have to remember to do a lot of the same things people in long-distance relationships do. We were both so used to seeing each other all of the time since we used to live eight minutes away from each other, so getting used to only hanging out once or twice a week was something that took a little bit to get used to. We called each other a lot and figured out how to have tough conversations over text that we would have normally had in person. The most prevalent aspect is trust. If your relationship is going to work while you are in different places having new experiences, you have to genuinely trust each other. 

After the first couple of weeks, we finally adjusted to the change and everything was normal again. We figured out how much time to spend together without it being too much or too little, and we both got much better at communicating. We also alternate where we go to hang out so that I'm not just going home all of the time. One of my favorite things to do is invite him to come to my college so we can study together. It's nice because we can both be productive and still be in each other's presence. Going through life changes while in a relationship does not always have to be a bad thing, if your partner trusts and supports you it may help your relationship become even stronger than before.

Matt and I on Move-in Day



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